We've all experienced our first professional heartbreak. It's time to mend those wounds.
“Align yourself with employers who you believe represent similar values as your own.”
"808's & HR Heartbreaks"
Job searching online can be one of the most tedious, stressful processes for both recent graduates entering the working world, and those who have been in the career scope for a while. It’s a daily effort filled with the same repetitive actions:
Step 1: Search for the job you desire.
Step 2: Tailor your experience to fit the job description.
Step 3: Submit your application.
Step 4: Wait on the job to reply.
Step 5: Wait on the job to reply.
Step 6: Wait on the job to reply.
Step 7: Get denied from the job.
Step 8: Repeat step 1 until the last strand of hair has fallen from your head.
Congratulations! You have successfully stressed yourself out.
Who teaches you how to navigate this process and the importance of keeping your hair for as long as possible? Your parents give you advice on how to heal your heart from failed relationships, and college prepares you for the ‘real world,” but which one addresses coping strategies associated with dealing with the frustration of being denied from job opportunities?
Receiving the “your skills aren’t quite the match for the role, but we wish you the best” break-up line from job after job can be detrimental to your self-confidence and hurt just as much as a romantic heartbreak.
The process itself can cause you to doubt that you are indeed qualified. I’ve heard so many stories from friends about how they’ve come close to the breaking point because it seemed as though they weren’t progressing in their search.
But in the never-ending battle between man and machine, how does one manage to deflect negative emotions that come swarming over you after your hopes have been shattered to pieces?
Here are a few tips to help you recover from an HR heartbreak:
1.There’s plenty of fish in the sea.
There are so many great companies to work for. Businesses are being created as we speak! The pool for new opportunities is endless. Date around.
2. Don’t put all of your eggs in one basket.
Apply to multiple jobs each time you sit at your computer. Start with a small goal of applying to a minimum of 5 positions each search session. This may be the only appropriate instance I recommend to spread yourself thin.
3. Don’t be afraid to make the first move, when moving on.
Why wait at your phone day in, day out, for a response? Text or call them first! Contact employers via phone or email either the same day, or the following day. Submit your application online and via email if optional. Have no shame in shooting as many shots as you can at the position you desire. It increases your chances of being chosen.
4. Be picky. Do not lower your standards.
You won’t be compatible with everyone and that’s alright. Align yourself with employers who you believe represent similar values as your own. Sometimes opposites don’t attract and you should know when it’s time to walk away.
5. If feelings are mutual, go for it. Leave the past in the past.
If you are unhappy in the current position you have and are offered a position from an employer you like, leave the past in the past. It may be difficult to let go of the current position you have because you don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, but understand that your entire life lies ahead of you. If you are offered a position, meaning you like them and they like you, by all means, go and snag your prize!
Unlocking this door, and throwing away the key! 🗝